Negative people can have the power to drain happiness from your soul. But ONLY if you let them. If you are strong or with practice and good mentorship you can prevent this from happening through self-care, self-respect, self-love, and good relationships. Unfortunately, a negative person has a problem for every solution that you can possibly provide, you can’t fix them. Most of the time if you are unable to de-escalate the situation, leave. It’s not worth your time!
And if you tried but can’t reason or compromise with this negative person, group or entity keep your beautiful ray of sunshine where it is wanted and needed. Influence and be around the people who appreciate your positivity! You will attract what you put out into the universe. So be careful not to spend too much time with someone who is negative ALL the time. It will wreak havoc on your mental long term. Always take time for yourself and do the things that YOU like to self-reflect and meditate (walk, stretch/yoga, run, plank, bike, fish, picnic, sing, dance, drive, relax, read, etc.)
I am considered a very positive person, maybe even overly positive. ? The reason behind that is my education and experience. I have dealt with so many types of personalities in my life and I have learned and experienced hateful energy demon types who live off inflicting injustice and misery onto others.
I can’t emphasize enough, NEVER waste your time. If someone is not reasonable, able to articulate and utilize their God-given words in a respectful manner (screaming, talking over you/cutting you off, etc.) DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT engage with this person. Do NOT PASS GO, leave the board, and run! When you deal with an illogical person or troubled soil, do not anticipate beautiful flowers or crops to grow from it. It will not happen.
A person has to genuinely want to meet you halfway to come to a resolution and to communicate appropriately. But if you find yourself in a situation where your heart rate jumped and like you ran a few miles… Congratulations, you lost the battle by arguing and wasting your time. It doesn’t happen often but one of my favorite things to do is set my standards and boundaries to what I would tolerate. I have the strength to walk away from a situation and ignore the other person acting in a ridiculous manner.
I try to always carry myself as if my daughter (if I had one) or my son was looking up to me and taking notes on exactly how I choose my words and respond to people. A leader is someone who is poised, relaxed, and listens. I try to embody this whenever I interact with someone. To me, I feel more at peace in life.