Maybe they didn’t change. Maybe they were this person the whole time and you just realized it with all the distractions put aside.
I am being fully transparent when I write, this pandemic has been a blessing and a curse at the same time. It has exposed a lot of weak areas in my relationship and life in general that I was able to self reflect on. I became even more self-aware of what is going on and who I have become and what I want in life on my terms and timeline. I have grown personally, financially (multi-income), spiritually (reflection), and physically (fit).
I have love for my current fiancé but I can’t make an excuse for how he has been changing. I gave him the benefit of the doubt with everything going on but 10 months of the same thing??
Lately, there has been even less focus on us, the wedding, our future. ? The possibility of improvement also seems quite unrealistic because it truly takes two people to be committed to communicating effectively. Especially with the tough conversations, every day. It has been more about his pursuit of entrepreneurship or [insert excuse for my neglect here]. Don’t get me wrong, I admit I do crave attention from my man, especially when I can’t physically be with him. I like 1-2 calls or long texts throughout the day and a gm and gn text. That’s pretty standard for me. If the relationship starts like that I expect it to stay consistent no matter what. The exception would be if we were living together or he is on vacation, then I will be more relaxed. But even then, a check-in text or call is appropriate in any relationship unless you are single and answer to no one of course.
He is a wonderful guy but I am concerned about being married just for love. Love is NOT enough. You need to be on the same page with everything, both words and actions behind it. You also need to recognize when someone slowly deviates and shows inconsistency or does something completely adverse to a shared goal. Money is also a topic to discuss so how it is spent and earned between both partners needs to make sense. It also is not cool to not speak to someone you plan to marry for four to several days. That takes BIG steps backward rather than forward. (it is just all ugh ? ok)
I’m not officially saying we are over but COVID-19 is like a hurricane ?️ wiping out everything it can in its path and/or bringing people closer together. What’s your story?